The Pursuer-Distancer Pattern of Communication
Most couples struggle with communication at some point in their relationship. It’s normal for couples to come into session and really have a hard time working through conflict and disagreements. Sometimes it’s as though they can’t even work through the simplest of disagreements. Obviously, this is discouraging and scary to couples who want better for their relationship. In fact, there is a pattern called the Pursuer-Distancer that can help explain the dance that happens between couples. Today I’m going to talk about what this looks like, and how to work together to be healthier in your communication with one another. The Pursuer Let’s meet Karen. Karen is a pursuer. She likes to deal with conflict in the moment. Karen will...
