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How Miscarriage Impacts a Marriage

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Finding out that you’re expecting a baby is undoubtedly one of the most joyful things in life you will ever experience.  You may start imagining what your life is going to look like in a few months and dream about this little one.  You may choose names and a nursery theme.  But for 1 in 5 women, these dreams will not come to fruition.  You discover at some point in your pregnancy that your precious little one is no longer alive.  You’ve suffered a miscarriage. Miscarriages are hell on earth.  They are the loss of life, the loss of a dream, and the loss of a family.  Experiencing a miscarriage can be extremely hard on a marriage as well.  Today,...

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Stages of Change

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We all have moments in life where we decide to make a change.  Sometimes it’s a career change, a relationship change, or even changing something about ourselves (communication, patterns of behavior, a bad habit, etc.).  Whether you realize it or not, there are often certain, intentional steps that you take when you decide to make a change in your life.  These steps are officially referred to as Prochaska and DiClemente's Stages of Change Model. Today on the blog, I’m going to talk about the Stages of Change and how knowing what they are can make you more intentional in shifting your life in a different direction.  While reading, you may realize that you are actually in one of the stages,...

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What Postpartum Depression Is…And What It Isn’t

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If you watch the news at all, you know there are frequently stories of mothers experiencing Postpartum Depression (PPD), and unfortunately not getting the help they need.  When we hear about PPD, it is usually in the worst case scenarios—either a mother has harmed her children or harmed herself.  What I want you to know today is this: there is so much more to Postpartum Depression than what is reported on the evening news. Today I want to take an opportunity to tell you about the PPD I know and see in my clients.  And if you’ve ever experienced PPD, or even think you may be experiencing it now, I want to encourage you to get the help you need....

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How to Prevent a Panic Attack

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If you’ve ever experienced a Panic Attack, you know they are absolutely terrifying.  It’s not unusual for people to end up in the Emergency Room because they think they are dying.  Panic attacks are often mistaken for heart attacks and strokes because they are so debilitating.  They can cause people to miss out on life because they occur out of the blue, and are incapacitating.  According to Anxiety.org around 2-3% of the population in the United States suffer from Panic Attacks annually (roughly 6 to 10 million people a year). This week, I’m going to talk about how to prevent Panic Attacks, and I also hope to give you some tools to utilize.  If you or someone you care about...

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Understanding Borderline Personality Disorder

Borderline Personality Disorder

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is a mental health diagnosis that is gaining a lot of recognition lately.  While the diagnosis gets thrown around a lot, I think it’s important to talk about what BPD is—and what it isn’t.  If you love, care about, or work with someone with BPD, this blog is for you! What is Borderline Personality Disorder? BPD is often identified by either the tagline “I hate you don’t leave me” or "Walking on eggshells".  Those with BPD are often triggered by perceived abandonment—and will react in an impulsive, angry, or self-harming manner.  Around 2% of the population have a BPD diagnosis, according to the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) with around 75% of those being women....

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How to Survive the Highs and Lows of Therapy

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If you’ve ever been to therapy, you know that sometimes it can be a bit of an emotional roller coaster.  Therapy can start off really good, but it can quickly take a nosedive.  Sometimes you feel relief, and then it turns to pain and grief. If you’ve not been to therapy before, consider yourself warned.  This isn’t meant to deter you from starting, but rather to be completely transparent about what therapy is and isn’t, and to give you realistic expectations. I once had a client come in for three sessions, and leave feeling on top of the world.  She would email me, and say things like, “This is wonderful, I feel so great, and I can’t believe I didn’t...

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How to Heal After a Break-Up

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Breaks-ups are hard and they are painful.  So often people just want us to move on, forget about the other person, and drown our sorrows in a pint of mint chocolate chip ice cream.  But if you’ve ever been through a bad break-up, you know those things are impossible, and that ice cream only puts a temporary Band-Aid on your hurt. Today I’m going to talk about moving on after a difficult break-up.  I know these words may not “fix” how you feel, but I hope that they give you some validation and hope that things will be better eventually.  I also want to provide you with some simple tips to help cope with your big feelings and pain right...

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How to Love Yourself

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Happy Valentine’s Day from Journey to Joy!  As wonderful as this Hallmark holiday full of love can be, it can also be really painful for some.  Sometimes expectations are not met, no effort is made, and you may feel hurt, let down, or disappointed.  It’s hard to be single this week, and it’s hard to be in a relationship/married if you have a partner that doesn’t try.  If you feel sad about this week, it’s okay.  You aren't alone. What I want to remind you, is that you have to take care of you.  This blog is not about others loving you, it is about you learning to love yourself. A lot of people struggle with loving themselves.  We are...

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Why I Think You Should Consider Premarital Counseling Before Your Wedding

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Pretty soon we will be starting wedding season!  It’s hard to believe that spring will be around the corner.  This is also the time of year when many couples have gotten engaged and are also planning a wedding for this year or next.  If you find yourself engaged, I want to take some time to advocate for the importance of Premarital Counseling.  So much time goes into the planning of the wedding, but what about planning for the marriage?  What if you spent time planning for your lifetime together, in order to address any problem areas before you say “I do”?  I think it’s important, especially with our marriages, to be proactive versus reactive with addressing problems. Why Premarital Counseling?...

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Do You Live in a Depressed House?

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This time of year can be especially difficult for those who are prone to Depression.  Lately, I’ve noticed an influx of clients who are really depressed and struggling with the cold, dreary days we’ve been experiencing.  Whether it’s Depression, Seasonal Affective Disorder, or both—it can be hard to function when the days are so short and gray. Have you ever heard of a depressed house?  It’s a household that has one or more people who struggle with Depression.  When even one person in a house struggles with Depression, it changes the whole dynamic of a house.  So how can you help your household? When You Are the Depressed Person Depression can look very different from person to person.  For some,...

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